Ever get the feeling that your life doesn’t quite belong to you? Like you’re following a script written by someone else? Gary Lyamin knows that feeling — and in his latest book, he lays out how to break free from it and reconnect with who you really are.
You’re not alone.
This quiet, nagging realization doesn’t care about where you’re from, how much money you make, or how polished your social media feed looks. In fact, it often sneaks up on people who seem to “have it all.” A successful career. A nice home. The kind of life that others admire — and yet, something inside feels disconnected.
Why? Because somewhere along the way, many of us stop living our lives. We start living someone else’s version of who we should be.
As children, we’re told what success looks like. We’re given rules — spoken and unspoken — about which paths are smart, which dreams are silly, and how we’re expected to behave. Over time, those outside voices start to drown out our own. And before we know it, we’re making choices based on pressure, not passion. Doing what’s “right” instead of what feels true.
Gary Ljamin (Lyamin) understands that feeling — intimately.
In his new book, How to Become the Person You Were Created to Be, Gary digs into this experience with clarity, honesty, and heart. It’s not a book of buzzwords or lofty theories. It’s personal. Real. Grounded. And it reads like it was written by someone who’s been through it — because it was.
At the heart of the book is a simple but powerful question: Whose life are you actually living?
Gary doesn’t pretend that rewriting your life’s story is easy. In fact, he’s the first to say it takes real courage — the kind that shows up quietly at first, like a whisper in the background of your daily routine. But that whisper matters. And if you start listening to it, things begin to shift.
Through vulnerable stories, practical exercises, and straightforward advice, Gary gives readers more than just a mirror. He gives them a map. Not a map to someone else’s dream — but one that leads them back to who they were before the noise. Before the roles. Before life became something to manage instead of something to feel.
One of the book’s central ideas is this: joy doesn’t come from chasing shiny things. It comes from remembering who you are. From tuning back in to that inner voice you’ve been ignoring. From choosing yourself — not the version of you that others prefer, but the raw, honest, deeply human version that’s been buried underneath the pressure to perform.
Gary writes, “You don’t have to play a role or fit into a mold. Just be yourself. Learn to love yourself, and the world around you will begin to reflect who you really are.”
It’s a message that hits especially hard today. We live in a time of curated lives and filtered expectations. Every scroll tells us who we should be, how we should look, what success ought to mean. No wonder so many of us feel disconnected.
But here’s the truth: the real you is still in there. And your life — the one that actually belongs to you — hasn’t gone anywhere. It’s just waiting for you to say yes.
If you’ve been moving through the days on autopilot… if you’ve wondered whether you’re living out someone else’s blueprint…How to Become the Person You Were Created to Be is a gentle but firm invitation to stop, breathe, and come home to yourself.
Because the life that fits you perfectly? It’s still available. All you have to do is choose it.
